Al-Anon is support groups all over the world that where people affected by alcoholism in one way or another meet to share experiences and help each other. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 as an organization for providing support to friends and relatives of drunkards. Al-Anon was founded by Lois Wilson, also called Lois W, 16 years after her husband founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). The group was started for the sole purpose of assisting alcoholic family members recover which was something she was facing in her life. Al-Anon is a self-supported organization which exists thanks to financial contributions from members. Support groups meetings help alcoholics' family members and friends to cope with the situation and treat their loved ones better, even if they haven't recovered yet.
Providing support to family members by making them understand that they are not alone in this struggle is the primary focus of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Being A Family Illness
Since it has a deleterious influence on both the drinker and those around them, Al-anon treats the disease of alcoholism as a family illness. The recovery process is a joint effort and the family members and other people close to the addict must be involved.
Lack of understanding the cause of their loved one's drinking problem makes family members suffer self-condemnation and also not know how to deal with the problem. These problems are handled by meetings and members are assisted to understand alcoholism as a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Groups For Teens
Teens are also affected by alcoholism and that is why Alateen was formed within Al-Anon to help them.
During the Al-teen meetings, the youth meet with their peers and share experiences and support each other at their level.
The Advantages Of Al-Anon Group
Members of Al-Anon benefit from being introduced to a number of people and families who could have suffered from the problem of alcoholism. Despite every individual being different Al-Anon commonly had interrelated experiences within their struggles. Being with people who understand your struggles and whom you can talk to is a big plus. There are Al-Anon meetings all across the nation. Phone us on 0800 772 3971 , and we'll help you find the one near you.
The Results Of These Meetings
Al-Anon meetings are open for anybody who is affected by someone else's drinking habit. If you are worried about somebody's heavy drinking or if the drunkard's lifestyle somehow affects your life , Al-Anon will help you.
People always fear the unknown, and so the first meeting at Al-Anon is bound to be a challenge. The following are some of the key things to know when you are coming for the meetings:
First and foremost, attending Al-Anon is anonymous
Everyone in that room is affected one way or another by the alcoholism of a friend or family member
No One is made to speak about their problem or discuss it, just encouraged to
Meetings Offered Can Vary
You may find some more beneficial to you than others.
Al-Anon is not based on any religion
Meetings are focused on Al-Anon 12 step program
The meetings conducted by Al-Anon have a simple formula which gives the attendees the option of taking what they prefer and leaving behind the rest. The members get to go about their own personal experiences.
The recovery stages are outlined before the meeting starts. Adapted, from the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, these steps are nearly straight sword. An Al-Anon member is required to take on a sponsor who will help them work through the program and provide support when needed. These steps are the following:
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
This is the point where alcoholism recognised as a conditioner that has affected them all.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Members often drive themselves to the brink in an attempt to change or control their loved one.
The members then recognise the fact that there is a solution out there for them.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
It is important that members learn to let go.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
This is where the journey of self-discovery begins.
Attendees have the option of creating a list of how they could have wronged themselves or their loved ones with examples like threats issued, Etc.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Thats a study of each listing in the group members moral inventory, which enables them to delve into each problem.
We are entirely prepared to have god remove all these defects of character.
This is a very important step, as it is the complete acceptance of the process of recovery supported by a Higher Power.
Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
Members are assisted by this part of the 12 Steps to understand how they may have been dominating or judgmental toward an addict and how that is counterproductive.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
Many people blame themselves for their loved ones addiction.
These people had better be willing to forgive and make amends to themselves.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
When you decide to make amends, Then follows the action of doing so.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
It takes some period before you can complete the stages.
Even if the members have already completed their inventory, missteps are normal.
Step 10 makes this clear that the process takes long.
Through prayer and meditation endeavoured to improve our conscious contact with God as we perceived Him, praying only for learning His will for us and the strength to do it.
This is taking personal spiritual responsibility and surrender so as to start healing.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
The last step is a realization that the journey of the member is not over.
Members are then motivated to assist other members with what they have learned.
Recognising The Higher Power
Although Al-Anon's program is not a religious one, members do experience insights into higher power. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Al-Anon is open to members of all religions and beliefs and accepts them with a commitment that no one will be forced to alter his or her belief.